"What happened"? We use to be so close.You were like my sister, my best friend. Wait! I know what happened, I did. I messed everything up and now my best friend or should I say ex-best friend walks pass me and treat me like a stranger. It's my fault.Our friendship was fine, until I started letting my insecurities and jealousies get in the way of everything. I don't have any regrets at all in my past,except that I might have unintentionally hurt someone else or something. Being someone’s friend isn't a difficult job. How hard is it to treat someone the way you want to be treated? with respect, you know, be there for them when needed? Not hard. However, I don't know why I made it such a difficult task to this one particular friend. There comes a point in life when people get tired of forgiving the people that hurt them, they get tired of hearing the "I'm sorry" or "I'm going to change", eventually giving up on whomever they were trying to work things out with. There's a saying that good friends are hard to find, harder to leave and even harder to let go.This friend I don't want to let go, my sister, my best friend the one person who I could truly call a friend.
Our friendship is over but I still have faith that one day just maybe one day things will work itself out and my best friend will just text me saying " Hiiiii Sis" or "I miss my best friend" like she usually did. People don't understand me, especially my other friends when I tell them that I'm hurting from this broken friendship. My other friends are usually like "get over it", "she was a bitch anyway","you still have us as friends". I personally believe that we all have a different level of relationship with each of our friends. We have the ones that we just hit up to go to a party with, the ones that we just go shopping or hit up to gossip with, and then eventually we have the one important friend that we're really close with. The one that understands us, knows us well, the ones that are always there for use to offer a hug in time of need and or the ones we trust and actually let in. Friendship is a full time job. We can't pick and choose when we want to be nice to someone because if you push that someone far enough, they won't come back. I've realized too late that I've burned a bridge to one of the closest friends that I ever had and it's far too late now to rebuild anything. If you've ever have to question and wonder if you are or have ever been a bad friend, well let me define what a bad friend is to you. A bad friend is someone who let's their ways outweigh their love and appreciation for someone.
A bad friend is someone who acts possessive and controlling, usually saying things like, "This is my best friend", I don't want you to hangout with this person because you're my friend". These type of friends are usually the unattractive ones that everyone try to stay away from. The ones that wonder if their friends are hanging out without them with someone else or if they're being forgotten and left behind. People who are insecure like this don't have what it takes to be a quality friend,Their own issues and neuroses get in the way.
Bad friends are not only narcissistic but also self-obsessed. They look for opportunities to bring the conversation back to them. Worse, they might be aware that they're doing it but in their mind they are the best friend ever. Friendships aren't easy to maintain like they once were in middle school. Now we actually have to put work into them. This blog is dedicated to anyone who's lost a close friend. The friends you have now will likely be the ones you have forever, so appreciate them. Be nice to them and don't take them for granted like I did.
I loved this piece so much. I can relate to every single word said in this blog. I went through the same EXACT experience and felt as if you were taking the words right out of my mouth. I love the way you displayed your emotions of sadness and regret about losing her, rather than let your pride get in the way. Wanting to be friends with someone you used to call your sister again is by far one of the toughest feelings to ignore. Other than a few grammatical errors, I think you did an awesome job in the way you wrote this. Your descriptions of a "good" and "bad" friend are easily agreeable to a wide range of audiences. Many people go through the same situation and would appreciate the kind advice you give to them at the end of the blog.
ReplyDeleteI like how your advice comes from experience. This gives the whole blog a feeling of being genuine and honest. You are a very good writer, but I feel that some of your advice can be a little broad. Giving some details may feel very personal, but it would give your posts something unique. I like how each entry has a different set up like a different font or a different background. I feel like this draws people to read your other posts.
ReplyDeleteI like how you give a personal touch to this particular piece. I feel like you get your point across easily but you can put a little more detail into it. I like that you put your own opinion and describe the words in your own way.
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