Toxic Friends : With Toxic friends, who needs enemies?

 

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down" - Oprah Winfrey  

Hey guys it's me again, from reading my previous blogs i'm pretty sure that you've all configured that my blog posts are about friendships and relationships. I'm sure we've all heard of the saying that we "Should choose to be around people that uplifts us and not ones that brings us down". This saying not only applies to relationships but to friendships also. I feel like people focus more on relationship issues rather than spending any time on friendship issues. Thing is, I think that we tend to be more forgiving and less choosy about friends than we are about relationships. Which makes perfect sense because we can always have friends and only one significant other. Friendships permeate our lives, it has an impact on almost most of the things we do. Some contribute positivity and some brings negativity to the table. So many friendships end with "We just stopped talking"or I just don't like "him/her" anymore. This blog post is about "Toxic" friends. Sometimes we all have that one friend that constantly needs something, always asking for a favor but can never give one back. Toxic friends are the ones that drains the life from your friendship/relationship for their own gain. 

Needy friends : A friend indeed? 

Sometimes I feel like my friends think that I'm rich or something. Okay, so this past year I bought myself my first car and got a 2013 Honda accord. Brand new? For a first car??.  Its the simple fact that I  know how to manage my money well and still enjoy the finer things in life and for this my friends always think that I just have money laying around. Just this past week I dealt with a toxic friend and decided to end the friendship finally. She was starting to become a burden to. She always needed something, and of course I was always helping when she's in need or acts like it at least. Friends since the  8th grade and I can never recall a time where I was able to ask for a favor from this friend. However, she always needed to borrow money, a ride to work or simply for me to pay for her dinner when we hung out with our other friends. I decided to end this friendship because I realized that it was toxic and it was clear that I was being used!

Here are some ways to get rid of toxic friends and make way for the real people that deserves a spot in your life :

Take Responsibility- By making the decision to continue in a toxic friendship or relationship, you're doing nothing but hurting yourself  and the person also. Even though it might be hard to say no sometimes it's beneficial to take responsibility and notice when a friendship is toxic and let your way out.

Talk to other friends - It's good to talk to your other friends about this toxic friendship. Sometimes getting other people's opinions and outlook on relationships and friendships issues who might have been through a similar situation can really help your decision making. 

Set boundaries - Personally, I think that I'm a very nice person who sometimes doesn't know how to always say no to people. Setting boundaries and standards in friendships and relationships plays an essential role in the outcome of things. 

End Friendship- It can sometimes be difficult to end a friendship with someone, especially if the person is someone that you really care about or have known for a long period of time. My point is that you have to take care of yourself and stop hanging out with douche bags. We should only surround yourself with people who will uplift us and bring out the best qualities in us. At some point in our life when a friend has been around long enough we stop considering them friends and start thinking of them as family. Friends we have now will most likely be the ones we have forever, so we might as well make sure they're solid.