Baggage Claim

"Embarking on a new relationship is like setting off at sea in a sail boat for two. Too much baggage from the past will sink it. Too many others in the boat will rock it. If both people don't do their part, the boat will go in circles going no where fast. But most of all, if the boat was suspect and was not solid from the start, it will spring a leak and fall apart just when you need it most"- Nathaniel Butler

I dated this guy for almost a year. Before anything happened we started out as friends at first, at the moment he had a girlfriend so I should have saw how this would end. I was always his go to person to talk/hangout when he was going through something with his then girlfriend. They eventually ended up breaking up and we got together, I thought that he was over her but that wasn't the case. We ended up dating for almost a year, everything seemed perfect but I had no clue how he was really feeling. Before we made our one year he sat me down and told me that he wasn't over her, I was devastated because I was actually starting to fall for him. I never understood why he asked me out if he was never over her, I never understood why he kept these feelings to himself for so long. I still remain confused. 

This blog post will be about the baggage that people bring into new relationships and even friendships due to a unfinished passed. I've experienced this and I'm sure that some of you have experienced this in the past also. When someone gets out of a relationship, it doesn't even have to be a relationship exactly it can be anything that would've potentially hurt this person they tend to carry baggage's with them. I never understood why people do this, it is such a simple task that it's either you're over a relationship and ready to move on or you're simply not. Don't waste people time. What part of this don't people understand, If you're not ready to pursue a new relationship/friendship then just DON'T lead other people on. I've been through this very particular scenario one too many times and it's just something that continues to remain confusing to me as to why people do this. Some people like to circle in their own misery and think that other people can solve their problems for them, well it doesn't work that way. It is understandable that you may have had high hopes in a past relationship that the person you were dating at the time was the "one" but we have no self-control some things that happen. Everything happens for a reason and we should never question that reasoning. However, loading up your baggage into a new relationship will toxify this new journey. 

In life you could meet a really good person with whom you are compatible, but the old baggage that you bring in from the past could inhibit you from seeing that person in a realistic light. We should refrain from jeopardizing good relationships because we're not over someone else. Please, save people the time and stress. If you're not over it then find a way to get over it or simply don't move on until you do!.