Over Investment In Relationships....

          It's a matter that we can all relate to. A friend, probably after being single for a while gets into a relationship  and everything changes.  I hate when my friends, family or anyone else that I know get into a new relationship and start acting different. Some for the good and some bad. This blog post however, is about over investments in relationships. Back in high school, I had a friend who could never seem to go anywhere without her boyfriend. He was at everything we attended together within months of being together. One time I was even forced to ask him "how do it feel to always be around a group of girls all day and you're the only guy". He chuckled and didn't take the question seriously, however I was being serious.

       "In the beginning of a relationship partners often communicate effortlessly and at length. They seem to intuit each other's needs and wishes and go out of their way to please and surprise each other. Couples begin to develop a strong sense of "we". Individual differences are minimized, if noticed at all; partners are very accepting. Joy, excitement, happiness and hope abound. Partners present and elicit their best selves. Life seems expansive and promising. It is a time of sharing dreams and romance".

      The most valuable resource we have is time. Priorities in life are most vividly shown by how we choose to spend our time. I personally believe that when someone spends an excessive amount of time with a new boyfriend/girlfriend it shows that this person is more important than your family and friends. Okay, we get it, you're happy to be in a relationship and it's most likely since you guys just started dating that the relationship is at that newlywed stage. When we over invest ourselves in a relationship, we have insufficient remaining time for your friends, for your family and for ourselves. Most friendships changes because people actions when they get into a new relationship demonstrate that you DON'T value friends as mush as they thought you did. Back in high school, I had this one friend that always felt the need to bring her boyfriend to everything like her boyfriend was no apart of our group of friends or something. I got tired of seeing his little peanut head pop up at every event that we went to together. Everyone got tired of this boyfriend, we really didn't know him so well so it was already awakard that  he was around all the time. This boyfriend was everywhere, including movies, mall, park, parties..you name it. I feel as though while in relationships people should know how to distinguish and balance out quality times between significant others, friends and family.

I never understand why people feel the need to be around each other all the freaking time!! during the newlywed stages of a relationship. So tell me guy, why is it when we get into a relationship things change?

A new relationship should be apart of our life, but it should never consume our whole life. While it might not happen initially, eventually your emotions will trouble you. When you are neglecting relationships that you should be nurturing or neglecting things that you know you should be doing, it catches up to you. Over investing yourself in a relationship may cause your lover to actually lose attraction for you. Pressure from friends and family (who love and miss you) will begin to affect the relationship. Healthy relationships can only grow stronger and more satisfying if proper priorities are consistently maintained. Proper priorities strengthen and reinforce a relationship, while unbalanced priorities hasten its demise.